THE BEAULIEU FAMILY
Over 2 years ago now we started our long adoption journey. We were very anxious to start our family so we jumped on the international adoption bandwagon. We falsely believed that this would be the most predictable form of adoption with guarantees of placement within 18 months. After losing a year and a half of time and money, our international adoption plan fell through. We believe that everything happens for a reason and a perfect example of this was that on the same week that our first plan fell through, our social worker encouraged us to contact NCFST.
We filed our papers with them and within 3 months had a proposal for a 2-year-old little girl. We were excited and terrified all at the same time. Having an infant was never important to us, especially since we were aware of all the toddlers currently in care, however we knew there were challenges with older children.
Upon meeting our daughter for the first time we were amazed with how intelligent she was. She was timid at first but with the help of Dora the Explorer stickers she let us both in, and so began the bonding experience. After a month of daily visits our daughter joined our family and our placement journey was complete. A new journey of adjustments and attachment began for the three of us.
Our daughter’s world changed completely, from environment to food, routine to lifestyle and yet she was so resilient. There was a definite honeymoon period that lasted for a couple of months followed by a period where she constantly pushed us to see how far she could get and to see how secure her place in our family was. She has had several fears of new things and some confidence issues but with love and encouragement she has managed to get past them all and to be able to feel pride in her accomplishments.
We still can’t believe the changes in her over such a short period of time. She is a cuddly, loving, and attentive child who is always laughing and smiling. Of course there have been challenges as with any adoption but it has been wonderful to be able to sit down with her and be able to talk with her about her thoughts and her new life. The best part of our toddler adoption has been watching how quickly she is growing, learning, and adapting in her own way with her own personality. We love her dearly and are so happy that we had the courage to be open to a toddler adoption.